10 Smart Ways to Capitalize on Back-to-School Savings by Mikey Rox
Even if you’re not a parent, August is a month to use back-to-school sales to your advantage; this time of year is great for stocking up on office and craft supplies, new clothes and shoes, and snack foods for your work lunches. To help you make the most of this annual rite of passage (even as a fabulous LGBT adult), consider these 10 tips on how to get the biggest bang for your buck as classes go back in session.
1. Hit the clearance racks first
This is one of the most important rules to shopping on a budget, and it’s one I live by 100 percent of the time: Before you browse anywhere else in the store, head straight to the clearance section...Read More
A Couple of Guys is a weekly comic strip that follows the adventures of Eric Parker, an actor and waiter; his husband Joey Romelli, a police officer; and plenty of offbeat relatives, friends, bar acquaintances and pets.Read More
African American sisters aging with HIV and co-morbidities by Rev. Irene Monroe
Imani (not her real name) was thirty-two when she contracted HIV. Surrounded by sister-friends who died from the virus, Imani did not expect to reach middle age. Now in her fifth decade of life, Imani has new and multiple challenges. She self-manages her HIV—along with her diabetes, hypertension—while searching for employment. The result of these stressors is depression. All of this has gravely impacted her ability to sustain medication adherence and her will to live.
But Imani’s not alone. African American women’s struggle with HIV—from the black community’s stigmatization to the dominant culture’s condemnation of them—has both unduly burdened their daily lives and compromised their quality of care.
While numerous datum have surfaced about African American women living with HIV in their younger years, very little has surfaced about how they age with the disease—until recently. The journal AIDS Patient Care and STDs this month published the qualitative study “Taking It One Day at a Time: African American Women Aging with HIV and Co-Morbidities.”
As a welcoming and needed study, its narrative gives voice, validation, and strength to Imani and other sisters’ of African descent reality.
“I’m taking it one day at a time. First, since my kids are grown, I gotta put me number one first. And, sometimes it’s still hard for me… taking my medicine, I help somebody along my way…. Long as I can help somebody, then I can help myself, you know. I know this journey that I’m going on, it’s not gon’ be in vain.., That’s what it means to me, taking it one day at a time ‘cause I don’t know what the day gone bring. Just one minute at a time, one second at a time,” Elana told the interviewer in the study who asked, “What does HIV self-management mean to you?”
In interviewing women like Elana the study examined HIV-positive and co...Read More
A federal appeals court will hear arguments today in six challenges to laws that ban marriage for same-sex couples or the recognition of marriages of same-sex couples throughout the 6th District.
In each case, a lower court in Ohio, Michigan, Tennessee, or Kentucky ruled in favor of marriage for same-sex couples. The American Civil Liberties Union and the ACLU of Ohio joined one of the cases, Obergefell v. Himes, in December asking the state to recognize the marriage of a Cincinnati man and his late husband. The case was filed by Alphonse Gerhardstein of Gerhardstein & Branch.
The case was filed on behalf of James Obergefell and John Arthur, who were in a committed relationship for 22 years and wished to marry...Read More
Saggy Baggy The Elephant by Jonathan Wilson
When I was a kid my parents bought me various books from the Golden Book series. Some were better than others and some carried a meaning beyond the obvious. As an adult who struggled but finally came out as an unapologetic gay man, I have reflected on one of those books and gained some insight that escaped me as a child—Saggy Baggy The Elephant.
As I recall, it’s about an orphaned little elephant, alone in the jungle, and perfectly content and happy. Life was good. As with people, the little elephant was born without a discriminatory bone in his body. As with people, he would have to learn about that pernicious trait.
While prancing merrily along, his reverie is interrupted by a shrieking, colorful parrot. The bird commences to berate the little elephant, commenting derisively on his appearance. He had clumpy legs/feet, a l-o-o-o-o-n-g nose, floppy ears, and his skin—his skin was a drab gray and all wrinkled. It was saggy and baggy, and the parrot decided to call him Saggy Baggy.Read More
Transcending Adversity: Cody’s Story by Luke Gordon
As a life coach, I assist people who want to come out as LGBT by co-creating with them a systematic plan for their transition, so the process goes smoother with less stress and no regrets. A part of the process involves determining the ‘how’—how to go about making the transition happen. One component of the ‘how’ is to develop a support system, which may include friends; family; religious or spiritual fellowship; co-workers; colleagues; social acquaintances; LGBT support groups, social groups, and resource centers; people you volunteer with, etc. The challenge of not having a strong support network is illustrated in Cody’s story.
Cody grew up in a fundamental, charismatic Christian household. He knew by the time he was 15 that he wanted to go into the ministry. But something began to happen. He noticed that guys in Speedos turned him on and figured something was up. He finally realized that he was gay when he was 17. This is when the incongruence began.
In the church he belonged to, homosexuality wasn’t accepted. Yet, he aspired to be a youth minister and choir director. The solution? He decided to use prayer to eliminate homosexuality from himself.
“I thought I could pray the demon out. I told my parents [I was gay] but I also said that I was working to free myself from the spiritual bondage I was in.” Cody and his parents didn’t talk about it any further and he ended up repressing his sexuality. Once in college, Cody realized that he enjoyed the field of communications most and decided to pursue that rather than the ministry, but he remained active in his church and participated in leadership roles.
When Cody turned 30 he began to reevaluate his life and question his religion. He began exploring being gay, and it came back to him that he really did like guys. He had fantasized about men for years but had never connected two and two. At this point, he decided to embrace who he was.Read More
Lambda Legal and the Hawai‘i Civil Rights Commission today urged the Intermediate Court of Appeals of the State of Hawai`i to reject a new argument that the recent U.S. Supreme Court ruling in Burwell v. Hobby Lobby Stores allows a commercial business operating a bed and breakfast to refuse accommodation to a lesbian couple, and thereby violate Hawai`i’s antidiscrimination law, by invoking the business owner’s religious beliefs as a defense.
“The ink on the Hobby Lobby case isn’t even dry, and already we’re seeing misguided attempts to do exactly what nine members of the U.S. Supreme Court agreed was forbidden: to use religion as a shield for discrimination,” Lambda Legal Staff Attorney Peter Renn said...Read More
Young Conservatives for the Freedom to Marry is embarking on a three-city GOP Iowa marriage tour tomorrow making the case that removing anti-gay language from the national Republican Party platform is both good politics and the right thing to do. Republican strategist Margaret Hoover, whose great-grandfather President Herbert Hoover was an Iowa native and who serves on the board of the Herbert Hoover Presidential Foundation in West Branch, is leading a series of meetings with elected officials, conservative activists and voters. Hoover, along with campaign manager Tyler Deaton and four other Young Conservatives, will be visiting Des Moines, Cedar Rapids, and Davenport on Wednesday, August 6.
“In the five years since Iowa approved marriage for gay couples, countless families across the state have been strengthened, as has the principle of individual liberty that we conservatives hold dear,” said Margaret Hoover. “The Republican Party stands for freedom and the centrality of family, and that’s why I believe so strongly in marriage for same-sex couples. It’s time our official party platform reflect the diversity of views on marriage held by rank-and-file Republicans. A greater openness on the freedom to marry will maximize Republicans’ chances to appeal to younger voters and win.”
National polls sh...Read More