5 Tips To Improve Body Confidence!

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5 Tips To Improve Body Confidence! by Davey Wavey

Today’s guest post is by Davey Wavey’s good friend and spiritual weight release coach. Diane is also one of the contributors to The Davey Wavey Weight Loss Program.

You probably know how challenging summer can be when you’re worried about extra weight. Nothing like shorts and tank tops to trigger body insecurity, right? There is a solution and a way to embrace summer with confidence and joy. No, it’s not about changing your summer wardrobe into long-sleeve shirts and sweatpants. It’s about changing your mindset.

Here are my top 5 steps to getting body-confident, even in the hot weather:

1. Don’t Criticize… Apologize

Yes, you heard me… apologize. When you’re stuck in self-criticism about your heavy thighs or waist, you don’t need to deny how you feel. But you need to know how to stop. One way is to apologize to your body for speaking badly about it. As in any relationship, a heartfelt apology clears the air and helps you refocus. And the relationship you have with your body is as real as a relationship with a person. Use an apology to turn things around whenever you catch yourself in destructive thinking. Simply say to your body, “I’m sorry for talking about you this way.” Then do the best you can to end the negative self-talk and move on. Repeat as necessary.

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Sounding the Alarm for Syphilis in Iowa


Reported cases of syphilis have increased significantly in the state according to the Iowa Department of Public Health. In Scott County Iowa alone, the local health department saw an alarming increase of 420% from 2012 to 2013 in early infectious syphilis – cases infected for less than one year. Most of these cases have been in men who have sex with men (MSM). Some of the cases are co infected (both diseases at the same time) with HIV.

The Scott County Health Department (SCHD) launched an aggressive campaign to increase awareness about this serious public health concern. By partnering with community organizations and businesses the SCHD implemented a plan to directly reach the population most affected...

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Skirting the Issues: Bittersweet

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Skirting the Issues: Bittersweet by Ellen Krug

Three months ago, I experienced a college graduation weekend—something that I often wondered would ever come. Lily, the youngest of two daughters. Intentionally and stubbornly an under-achiever in high school. Thirtieth from the bottom of her 483-strong student class at Linn-Mar High School. Couldn’t be forced to study even if world peace depended on it.

And now, a college graduate with a 3.4 GPA.

In a word, it was Sweet!

Way to go, Lily, rocking me and everyone else who knows you!

Other than celebrating Lily’s accomplishment, the weekend meant something else: being in the presence of my ex-wife. As I’ve written before, Lydia and I started out as high school sweethearts turned soul mates...

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Cartoon: Blame it on the Gays

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10 Smart Ways to Capitalize on Back-to-School Savings

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10 Smart Ways to Capitalize on Back-to-School Savings by Mikey Rox

Even if you’re not a parent, August is a month to use back-to-school sales to your advantage; this time of year is great for stocking up on office and craft supplies, new clothes and shoes, and snack foods for your work lunches. To help you make the most of this annual rite of passage (even as a fabulous LGBT adult), consider these 10 tips on how to get the biggest bang for your buck as classes go back in session.

1. Hit the clearance racks first

This is one of the most important rules to shopping on a budget, and it’s one I live by 100 percent of the time: Before you browse anywhere else in the store, head straight to the clearance section...

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A Couple of Guys: The Parent Trip

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A Couple of Guys is a weekly comic strip that follows the adventures of Eric Parker, an actor and waiter; his husband Joey Romelli, a police officer; and plenty of offbeat relatives, friends, bar acquaintances and pets.

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One Iowa response to the Family Leadership Summit

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On Saturday, August 9, The Family Leader will host its annual “Family Leadership Summit” at Stephens Auditorium in Ames. Led by the organization’s president and CEO Bob Vander Plaats, the summit is “designed to educate and mobilize the conservative base regarding worldview application and issues that impact the family.”
The summit’s speakers for 2014 include Iowa Congressman Steve King, U.S. Senate nominee Joni Ernst, Texas Senator Ted Cruz and his father Rafael Cruz, 2012 presidential candidates Rick Santorum and Rick Perry, former Governor of Arkansas Mike Huckabee, Dr. Alveda King, the Family Research Council’s Tony Perkins, and more. Governor Terry Branstad and Lieutenant Governor Kim Reynolds are also scheduled to speak at the summit, which is funded by the Branstad/Reynolds Campaign, Citizens United, the National Organization for Marriage, the Family Research Council, and numerous other conservative organizations.
The following is a statement from Donna Red Wing, Executive Director of One Iowa, the state’s leading lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) organization:

“In a world that continues to grow more and mo...
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African American sisters aging with HIV

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African American sisters aging with HIV and co-morbidities by Rev. Irene Monroe

Imani (not her real name) was thirty-two when she contracted HIV. Surrounded by sister-friends who died from the virus, Imani did not expect to reach middle age. Now in her fifth decade of life, Imani has new and multiple challenges. She self-manages her HIV—along with her diabetes, hypertension—while searching for employment. The result of these stressors is depression. All of this has gravely impacted her ability to sustain medication adherence and her will to live.

But Imani’s not alone. African American women’s struggle with HIV—from the black community’s stigmatization to the dominant culture’s condemnation of them—has both unduly burdened their daily lives and compromised their quality of care.

While numerous datum have surfaced about African American women living with HIV in their younger years, very little has surfaced about how they age with the disease—until recently. The journal AIDS Patient Care and STDs this month published the qualitative study “Taking It One Day at a Time: African American Women Aging with HIV and Co-Morbidities.”

As a welcoming and needed study, its narrative gives voice, validation, and strength to Imani and other sisters’ of African descent reality.

“I’m taking it one day at a time. First, since my kids are grown, I gotta put me number one first. And, sometimes it’s still hard for me… taking my medicine, I help somebody along my way…. Long as I can help somebody, then I can help myself, you know. I know this journey that I’m going on, it’s not gon’ be in vain.., That’s what it means to me, taking it one day at a time ‘cause I don’t know what the day gone bring. Just one minute at a time, one second at a time,” Elana told the interviewer in the study who asked, “What does HIV self-management mean to you?”

In interviewing women like Elana the study examined HIV-positive and co...

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Federal Appeals Court to Hear Arguments in Six Gay Marriage Cases

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A federal appeals court will hear arguments today in six challenges to laws that ban marriage for same-sex couples or the recognition of marriages of same-sex couples throughout the 6th District.

In each case, a lower court in Ohio, Michigan, Tennessee, or Kentucky ruled in favor of marriage for same-sex couples. The American Civil Liberties Union and the ACLU of Ohio joined one of the cases, Obergefell v. Himes, in December asking the state to recognize the marriage of a Cincinnati man and his late husband. The case was filed by Alphonse Gerhardstein of Gerhardstein & Branch.

The case was filed on behalf of James Obergefell and John Arthur, who were in a committed relationship for 22 years and wished to marry...

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Saggy Baggy The Elephant

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Saggy Baggy The Elephant by Jonathan Wilson

When I was a kid my parents bought me various books from the Golden Book series.  Some were better than others and some carried a meaning beyond the obvious.  As an adult who struggled but finally came out as an unapologetic gay man, I have reflected on one of those books and gained some insight that escaped me as a child—Saggy Baggy The Elephant.

As I recall, it’s about an orphaned little elephant, alone in the jungle, and perfectly content and happy.  Life was good.  As with people, the little elephant was born without a discriminatory bone in his body.  As with people, he would have to learn about that pernicious trait.

While prancing merrily along, his reverie is interrupted by a shrieking, colorful parrot.  The bird commences to berate the little elephant, commenting derisively on his appearance.  He had clumpy legs/feet, a l-o-o-o-o-n-g nose, floppy ears, and his skin—his skin was a drab gray and all wrinkled.  It was saggy and baggy, and the parrot decided to call him Saggy Baggy.

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